There are many steps between here and holding him in your loving arms again and each relationship is a bit different but if you truly love him and wish to get him back you certainly can. This scenario plays out every day where a couple splits up and one or both partners go their separate ways only to realize that they do love each other and wish to be together. Perhaps you have seen this happen in the lives of your friends or your own life at some point?
To improve your chances of winning him back you should avoid all emotional displays. Although your heart may be breaking at times and you might feel anger, jealousy and actual physical pain in your chest when you think of the man you love with another woman, resist the temptation to act on these impulses. Don't call him or text him or email him telling him that you still love him or that you want him back. You will get your chance to do that face to face someday when he comes back to you… and you will have the satisfaction of being able to tell him that you loved him enough and wanted him to be happy even if that meant that he was with someone else.
Your entire goal should be to try to keep from having him completely close the door on your relationship by appearing crazy, emotional or needy. The two of you have a history together full of both good and bad memories. In time, the bad memories will fade and only the good ones will remain if you give him the time and space to sort through his own feelings. If you are nagging him or calling him all the time you will appear needy and a little crazy which will only solidify his opinion that you aren't the one for him.
Instead, only allow him to see the happy, fun, upbeat side of you. Allow your relationship to build once again. Create or recreate the friendship that you once had. After all, the two of you were probably pretty close and knew each other pretty well, right? The loss of that friendship will be something that he will want back again… it is definitely something that is missing from his life. Strive to become the friends that you once were together and you will improve your chances of winning him back tremendously.
Also, given time he will start having issues with his new relationship. Every relationship has issues so there is little doubt that sooner or later he will have a moment of frustration and reach out to you looking for the familiarity of your friendship. Be his friend. Tell him the truth. If he's doing something stupid, for example, or just doesn't understand women let him know about it. You will be creating a deeper friendship based upon truth, honestly and trust… which will lead to a more loving relationship based upon caring and true love.
Eventually, he will realize that you are the woman for him and when things start to go wrong with his new girlfriend you will be the first thought that comes to his mind. Just remember how important it is to keep your loving emotions in check. There will be time for love and affection once he realizes that he does truly love you and decides to come back to you. Until that day dream of what it will be like to finally get him back and hold him in your loving arms again.
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