Before you jump back in to the relationship you need to make sure that the reasons that the marriage ended can be overcome. Unless those problems can be dealt with the odds of you making it are very slim. But if you know in your heart that you're ready here are a few tips that will help:
Learn how to talk to men. Men look at almost everything in a larger picture and in black or white. "It's broke, so I'll fix it." If you ask a man how his day was you generally get a one or two word answer. Maybe a short overview of the day.
The reason he doesn't ask you how your day was is because you will go on and on about every little detail of the day. Who said what to whom? Men are not interested in gossip or small talk and once they start to hear it they will turn you off. Learn to speak to him in a way he understands.
Accept his apology. When a man does another man wrong, they apologize and it's over. When a man accepts an apology, he has forgiven the other person. When your husband apologizes to you and you accept it he expects the conversation to be done. He does not want to be reminded of it over and over again.
Realize he can not read your mind. He does not know what you want unless you come out and tell him. He probably doesn't even know you want him back. Men like to be told what you need from them in the relationship. Especially in the bedroom.
Many men will leave a relationship because they are positive they are not satisfying a woman in the bedroom because they get no reaction from her positive or negative and they feel they have no idea how to please her. Don't assume that he knows you're happy with your sex life or that he somehow magically should know what you want if you're not happy with it. Tell him.
It's not his fault you're bored. You may have noticed that men are rarely bored. It's because by nature they are always looking for new challenges, new skills to learn, or to complete some new project around the house.
If you do nothing but go to work, come home, plop yourself on the couch and complain about work, you're going to be bored whether he's there or not. Either learn to love some of the things your husband does, or find some hobbies or interests of your own.
Make some effort to keep the relationship fresh. If you manage to get him back by again being that exciting woman he fell in love with the first time around, know that if you let things go back to how they were, there's a good chance this will end up in another breakup.
Obviously for the relationship to truly work, your husband will no doubt have to make some changes of his own, but there's nothing that you can do but work on the issues from your end. I believe these tips will help. It's World in my mind
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