HEALING A BROKEN HEART

When it comes to healing a broken heart from love the number one thing you have to keep in mind is that it will take time. I know this is the last thing you want to hear. No one wants to stay in pain any longer than they have to. While it will take time to move on and feel better, there are some things you can do to make things go a little easier.

Use these tips to get over it and move on: They will take effort .. lots of effort on your part... but putting that effort in will pay off.



1. First of all, don't sit back and wait for your hurt to heal, be proactive.


Take your life by the reigns, take control and make some changes.  What is it that you've been putting on the back burner?  A new job, vacation, a new look?  Whatever it is, do it. It will make you feel like a new person, which will help you move on a little more quickly.


2. Only allow yourself a limited amount of 'wallowing' time.

Sure, most people will mope around for a few days, or even a week, but that's it.  Don't hide from the world.  You may not be ready to start dating, and you probably shouldn't, but that doesn't mean you can't hang out with your friends and just start moving on with your life, even if it's only baby steps.


3. While you don't want to wallow in a sea of 'what if's' (see step 2) it is a good idea to spend some time trying to figure out what went wrong ... not so you can get your ex back, but so you can hopefully avoid making the same mistakes the next time around...and make no mistake, if you allow it, there will be a next time and another love. Thanks for your time , Love and respect for stopping here in World in My Mind

A LOVE LETTER

World in my mind - A love Letter - You want to tell your partner how you feel about them but you end up staring at a blank screen for so long you give up.  Or you try a few lines only to delete them all and start over.  Again.

Why is it so hard to tell the loved one in our life exactly what they mean to us?  Do you struggle to find the words to properly convey how you feel?  Or is it that
you just can't explain it?  Don't let words get in the way of telling your loved one how much they mean to you.

Everyone wants to be loved.  When you are busy living life, there never seems time to slow down and really savour that central relationship that makes it all worthwhile.  Oftentimes we think that those closest to us know exactly how we feel about them and how important they are to us.  But the sad reality is that often they don't. It can be a Dream act.. Take action and show your Love!

So how can you write a love letter that you will feel proud to give and one that your loved one will cherish for all time?  Where do you start?  Follow these easy tips below and you'll be on your way in no time.

1.    First write down 5 things that you love about your partner and be as specific as possible.  Rather than writing that they are kind, instead be detailed about how they are kind.  Perhaps they always smile at waiters in restaurants or they are great at making people feel included, especially at parties. 

2.    Write down 5 things that they have done that confirms how much you love them and again, give examples.  Perhaps they enveloped you in a hug last night when you were feeling frustrated about your family.  Or maybe they knew how disappointed you were when you missed out on that promotion and they cooked a special meal to cheer you up. 

3.    Pick the best three examples from each of the above categories and weave them into your letter.  You could start by saying ‘I love how you…' and then include the three examples from the first point.  Then you could say something like ‘I loved the way you…' and then mention the other examples.  Make sure you emphasise how their actions made you feel, how loved you felt and how grateful you are to have them in your life.

4.    It is best to write up a draft first and then go over it to see if you can improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up what you want to say, edit it until it flows well and then leave it for a day or two before going back for a final edit and polish. 

5.    Buy some special paper and write out your letter.  Don't worry if your handwriting isn't perfect – it's distinctly yours and your loved one will appreciate the time and effort you put into the letter.  If you feel your writing is so bad it will be difficult to read or if your illegible handwriting is something you've argued about before then pay to get it hand written by a professional.  At a stretch you could use a more romantic font on your computer, say Garamond in italic, but you should really only do that as a last resort.   The more personal you can make your letter the more your loved one will treasure it.

6.    Think about how you plan on delivering this letter to them.  Will you slip it in their briefcase?  Mail it?  Leave it under the pillow?  Do you want to be there when they open it?  If you want to see their reaction, then it is best to hand it to them.  You could team the letter up with a small gift like flowers or chocolate but make sure the gift doesn't diminish the letter as you want that to be the main focus.

I think it's not too old for "a Love Letter". It's a Dream act to show your Love and respect for someone special. Thanks for being here stopping by in World in My Mind

WHAT DO WOMEN WANT IN A MAN

Welcome to World in my Mind, Let's share thoughts together, and spreading the spirit of soul, passion, love and respect in our life to others, to the universe that surround us..

Topics of today is What do women really want in a man? It's like waiting for Superman..hmmm I don't think so. The answer is a complete package, which includes the traits and qualities listed below:

Ambitious/Strong/Assertive
An ambitious man is a successful man because he strives for the best, no matter what his goals are. Strength does not necessitate muscles but inner strength. He is able to reach inside, draw from that strength when it is needed and share it if the need arises. He goes after what he wants without stepping on feet or toes but maneuvers around them.

Responsible
He knows his responsibilities and owns up to them, whether it is family, work, and commitments. A man recognizes that mistakes are a part of life. He admits to them, doesn't blame others or make excuses for his inconsistencies. He learns from them and acts accordingly.

Understanding
Recognizes that no one is perfect, including himself. Encourages communication efforts to resolve important issues. Realizes the final say does not have to go one way (especially his way) or another, but knows that a compromise is always a possibility.

In Tune With Himself
He has self-awareness spiritually and mentally. He loves self, takes care of himself but is able to love others as well. He can hold a decent conversation with anyone and he knows how to express himself in any given conversation. He is respected by others and recognizes that in order to get respect, you have to give it. He can accept constructive criticism without taking it personally and recognizes that opinion is individual and each is entitled to his or hers.

Compassion
He is unselfish and caring of others around him. He is neither self-centered nor egotistical. He thinks of others, and the feelings of others. Men are told from day one that men are not suppose to cry because it is a display weakness. Crying makes them human, and it has nothing to do with strength. It has to do with feeling. The lack of fear in showing true feelings constitutes strength and courage.

Relationships and Love
* He is caring giving, honest, loyal and respects the lady in his life
* He is willing to work things out together
* He respects his mate as his other half
* He knows that sharing is essential, good bad whatever
* The word commitment is not taken lightly and he doesn't make one unless he is sure that is what he wants to do. He will be the first to admit it.
* The woman in his life is there to support and encourage. He appreciates it and shows it
* He works with her, for her, towards common goals no matter what they are

Women love compliments, doors opened and chairs pulled out for us. A little pampering does a body good. For example: a little shoulder massage after a tiring day at work is comforting.

A man recognizes that chivalry is not dead. He is a gentleman. He does not take for granted he is loved. He expresses it and let his woman know that he loves her as well. Love is appreciated and not taken lightly. The work needed to maintain a relationship is done willingly and cooperatively

Each woman's definition of a man encompasses many different qualities, and each woman has her own standards..It's not just like waiting for Superman in life. Certainly my list is not a listing of the only qualities of manhood, but it is definitely a start.

Some might feel it is unrealistic to expect to have a man that is worthy of such admiration and respect, and provides such devotion. I say that there is no perfection in anyone, but for someone to be human, loving, caring is very close.

To all the solid, loving, honorable and hardworking men out there, I salute you! Thanks for being here and catch up with me in Word in My Mind. See you next post!

FENG SHUI LOVE TIPS

Life is not a bed of roses and the same can be said about relationship. It would be unwise to expect the emotions between various individuals to remain at the same, steady level at all points of time and disagreements are bound to arise. In addition, when anger or jealousy raises its ugly head, then all love seems to fly out of the window. At times like this, we need a balancing effect to smooth out the ruffled feathers of the quarreling couple.


The ancient Chinese practice of Feng Shui can help in creating perfect harmony in every personal relationship, besides other aspects of life like health, wealth and career. Feng Shui love tips if properly implemented can help to balance the yang (male) and yin (female) energies and bring the elements in perfect harmony with each other. 

Feng shui love principles can be applied for any situation, whether you are a single person waiting for love to enter your life, or even if you are already in a relationship with a partner and are looking for ways and means to enhance the bond. The south west area of our living space defines the personal relationship area and Feng shui love tips work towards enhancing that aspect of our lives. Colors like passionate red and pink in our bedroom or the southern area of the house help to bring the loved ones closer to each other. It is also advisable to keep a pair of mandarin ducks in the bedroom where the couple sleeps. It helps to bring about greater love and understanding among the partners.

If you want to attract love into your life you could try having peonies in your house. If the real flowers are not available, a photograph of the same will do equally well. However, peonies can cause infidelity in the case of married couple, so it is best avoided in that case. Hanging clear crystals in the south corner of the living room can also bring about harmony among the various members of the family. Certain precious and semi precious stones like pink quartz also have relationship enhancing qualities and they also look appealing when worn on the wrist as a charm. It can also be the ideal gift for your girlfriend when you want her to be in your life forever.

Simple things like the decor and furnishings of the house can also make a deep impression on your mindset and the related behavior. In order to promote harmony among family members, it is important that the furnishings in the living room and bedroom have round and soft edges rather than hard and pointed ones. Choose soft colors like soothing pink for your bedroom and light scented candles and incense sticks in the house to ensure the flow of chi (energy) smoothly among the many rooms. An important point to be considered while implementing any Feng Shui tip is that it should be done only under the guidance of an experienced professional. Keeping this in mind you can safely implement Feng Shui love tips to build harmonious and loving relationships in your .

FOR BETTER RELATIONSHIPS

This Articles sourced from Kevin Eikenberry. Personally, I really like this one and always make an improvement in my relationship. He wrote this piece several years ago. It is one of the essays in my book Vantagepoints on Learning and Life, and he share it today for three reasons:

• He is on vacation, so he is trying to not work while on vacation.
• He is in Michigan where he grew up (and where the story takes place).
• He believes the message of the story and the metaphor shared is extremely valuable.

The sweetness of the ideas as you pick some blueberries . . .
My mother emailed me about an experience she had last week that reminded me of some of my experiences growing up, and I hope you can relate as well. I`ll let her tell you the first part of the story...

"It was a beautiful, early September day in Michigan. The temperature was balmy with a nice breeze. It is days like these that remind me why I love living here so much. My husband, John, and I drove to a "u-pick" blueberry patch a short distance from our home. We were told to pick from any bush and we quickly noticed that the berries were plentiful. It didn’t take long however to notice something very interesting. While there were plenty of berries on the outsides of the bushes, if you looked inside, the berries were bigger, even more bountiful and virtually untouched."

After recounting this story to me, Mom went on to say, "It occurred to me that it is the same with our relationships with others. How many times do we just look on the outside, or on the surface, and not really work at our relationships to know the `inner self` of others?"

Mom is right (of course, Mom`s are always right, aren`t they?). It`s a powerful lesson.
We fall in love with the berries on the bush`s exterior, but when we look inside we find "the inner beauty" of even better berries. So it is in our lives. When we focus only on the exterior or superficial, we miss the depth of others. It is only in that depth that we will truly know them, and ultimately, appreciate them.

If Mom had followed the lead of the other pickers in the row, and hadn`t looked to the interior, she would have been disappointed by her harvest, and wouldn’t have had as many berries to enjoy. Regardless of how many berries could be found outside, Mom and John picked the whole bush.

My mother, in reference to a running joke about her height, mentioned that she had to pick inside the bush, because she could not reach all of them on the outsides of the bushes. I know better. I know she picked inside for two reasons: she knew from experience there would be good berries there, and, two, she did it because as a good gardener, she knows that all the fruit needs to be harvested to help the plant thrive.

Reminds me that it is always important to follow and use our experience. When we have experience at something, it is important to use it! There is lesson for all of us in Mom’s second reason for picking the whole bush, inside and out. She values the plant itself and wants it to thrive. We know that when we get to know people at deeper levels they thrive (and so do we!). We all need attention and care and love, and without the proper care and environment, just like the berry bush, we won’t thrive.

Just like Mom in the blueberry patch, our lives are "U-Pick". You decide what kind of relationships you want to build. You decide how deep you want to look when trying to understand and relate to others. When we pick the right patches, we will find lots of great fruit, but the sweetest fruit will always be found when we look a little deeper. It takes a bit more effort and time, but you will be well-rewarded.

Think about the lessons of the blueberry patch the next time you are building a relationship, whether with your long-lost cousin, new neighbor or the new colleague down the hall. "U-Pick" your approach, just remember that your choice determines the relationship you harvest.

Dating Etiquette and Rules

Dating is a social action between two people with the plan of accessing each other appropriateness as their partner. When you start dating, you must be familiar that there are a number of most important rules to follow that can help you to get triumph. Dating is regarding two people coming together to observe whether they are similar in temperament, well matched, like minded, companionable and friendly. And then enjoy each other's companionship so that they may go towards formation of secure relationship. In this regard, you should keep in your mind some rules and etiquettes.

• When you are on date, make sure that you do your maximum to make the gathering pleasurable and pleasant. Eye contact is very essential during dating as it shows your attention towards your partner and also it is good etiquette to give as much concentration as possible to your companion. You should be polite, gracious, positive, sympathetic and admiring while on date. You should not be blazed, wasteful or overgenerous because these are the areas of the wealthy persons who make an impression with their prosperity and influence and not of sentimental persons.
• When you are on date you should be punctual and be evidence for respect for your date and illustrates that you are well thought out, Planed and organized. Drinking and smoking is not good at all while dating. Always stay away from negotiations on political affairs, beliefs and religious conviction in the early phases.
• Never argue when you are on date, avoid fight, and bad manner to other people, it merely is not tolerable. You should be a listener because listening skills explains attention, concern and the aptitude to cooperation and not confrontation.
• Now a day’s there is no justification to look bad. Hence, you should dress up well because poor dressing sense illustrates idleness and laziness and can not do anything to support and encourage you. It is also an indication of disrespect for you date. For this reason you should make an effort to look good and fresh.
• You should not give your words, do not make promise; don’t use bad manners, uncivilized language as girls are always sweet and respectable. Even, if you don't like your date then don't be fast to give her a tough moment. As a human being she deserves to be treated with politeness and respect. So, Impoliteness and discourtesy is not allowed.
• You should always speak truth and never tell lies while on dating. On first dating you should compensate the bill without inquiring.
• You should call when you give your word to call and never stay someone waiting on. Even if you don't like your date then don't misleadingly and untruly promise about giving call.

I'm Not Over My Exgirlfriend Today

The problem is, there are few guys who believe that it is not simple to get over an ex girlfriend. They will try out to go back to that ex or simply ring her all-day wishing that will get her to heat up the old fires which passed days ago.

First and foremost you have to realize if you cannot get over it you have a job to do. Do you acknowledge why? Cause she does not care about you, probably she is ignoring you. She might be neglecting you but poor you, about all the great activities you did together. I will tell you pal you have got to get your shit together.

The reason you can not forget her is not because you know her so much or she is the most pretty woman since Cleopatra, no sir.

You can not forget your ex girlfriend cause you have an emptiness inside you. Yes I will say it again, you have a vacuum inside you. You haven not found the answer to satisfy so you think you can get from her. NO! She won not be able to fill it out for you. In fact nobody will, others might show you directions but you only can fulfill it for love and respect.

Are you stuck? All in your hands. Ok guys, wish this will help you. Thank you very my for always being world in my mind, where you can express your love..! Thank you.

STOP TRYING TO GET HER BACK - IF YOU ARE STILL IN LOVE WITH HER

If you want to get your old girlfriend back you need to put your emotions away and stop crying. You need to find some strength and start to think about what you are going to do to get her back. Most men in this emotional state just fly by the seat of their pants as they try to get the love of their life back. They will tell their ex everything that they are feeling, even if their ex does not care. Men will go through all kinds of emotions like, sadness to desperation. Do I need to stop trying to get her back if you really want your ex girlfriend back you need to take control of your emotions.


Begging and crying will not get your old girlfriend back. No matter how sad and depressed you are, this will not work. She is not going to just take you back because you keep calling her sobbing and telling her she is the one for you and you can not live without her. Women hate this kind of emotions in the man she is involved with, they do not find this appealing at all. If you are trying to push your ex farther away, just keep the emotional train on this track, do I need to stop trying to get her back.

In order to get your old girlfriend back you will need to do things that she does not expect you to do. She will expect you to get upset with her over the breakup, so do not get upset. She will be waiting for you to call and beg for a second chance, so do not call her. She will also think that you are sitting around mourning over the breakup, so do not do this.

Pull yourself together, stop crying, and be friendly to her is what you have to do to get her back. Also, you can not have any contact with her at all. If you do, she will be the one in charge. So stop calling her and she will be the one calling you because she missing you.

HOW TO GET YOUR EX-BOYFRIEND OR EX-GIRLFRIEND BACK IN YOUR LIFE

Are you are biting your nails to figure out how you could reconcile with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend? Well, you are not going to find solutions in this way, you are only going to damage your nails. If you are sure that you do not want to move on, then pay attention to what follows.

Every detail and steps that you take count. Make sure that you don't complicate things this time.

How to get an ex back?

You both broke up for a particular reason or reasons. This is what you should be thinking about carefully. Getting back together would imply not making the same mistakes again. This is really vital if you want your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend back forever.


You need to be prepared mentally to tackle problems wisely if they were to re-surface. Your ex would see that you have become stronger and more mature indeed and this would make your relationship stronger.

You will surely miss your ex after the break up. However, learn to control yourself because you should not appear hopeless in front of your ex. Being desperate and hopeless is not going to make him or her want to get back with you. Do not think that your ex will come back to you out of pity. On the contrary, if you appear to be a confident person, he or she can actually change his or her mind. Also, do things that will keep your mind calm and happy because you need to give your ex that impression.

However, if you want to reconcile with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend by making the latter feel jealous, you should know that this does not always work. He or she might think that you have moved on and you are not interested in getting back together.

So, be strong, happy and confident. These are the right ingredients to attract your ex back to you.

5 SIGNS IF YOU THINK YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING ON YOU

Cheating is a reality in relationships and if you suppose your partner may be cheating on you, you need to be on the guard for evidence. Be aware that you may not see any signs at all that there is unfaithfulness going on. Your partner may be so clever that they have concealed their tracks really good.


Of course you will have those that are not very skilled at covering up or perhaps they just don't care. Which ever category your partner fits in, you need to make totally sure they are cheating on you. You don't want to confuse something as a sign only to find you are very wrong. Be sure you have some strong evidence before you proceed. Listed below are 5 clues of a cheating partner.


1. Does your partner appear to be spending more time online while you are off doing something else or have gone to bed? They could be having an online affair or communicating with someone they could be having an affair with.

2. A big one could be cell phone conversations. What could it signify when your partner gets a phone call and leaves the room to talk? If you ask about it and they start to get mysterious then it could be a problem.

3. If your friends know that your partner has been cheating on you, they may not know how to approach you about it. This may make them act strange around you and your partner.

4. What do you do if your partner accuses you of having an affair and your not? They may be feeling guilty about what they are doing and feel the need to pass it off on you.

5. Have they changed how they dress up or look around you or when going out? If your partner seems to dress up nicer than usual when going out with friends, are they meeting someone else? If they are trying to look nice for you that's one thing but going out of their way to look good otherwise could be a problem.

Remember, any of these signs could be a sign they are cheating on you, but you need to have factual proof before making accusations. You do not want to make a fool of yourself to your partner.

HOW TO WIN YOUR LOVE BACK

If you are feeling stranded after breaking up with your loved one and want to see about getting them back, you could have a lot of work ahead of you. Actually the amount of work involved will be dependent on the reason for the break up. If you had cheated on your partner that would obviously be at the extreme end of trouble, you would have trust issues to deal with.

Your first step at getting your ex back would be to just leave them alone at first, wait a few weeks before you try to contact them so you do not look like you are desperate to get them back. If you start looking desperate and clingy with your ex it just won't look good for you.


Take this time to work out your problems and get over the break up. This can be an emotional ordeal for both parties so don't think it's just you that is having a hard time. Right now you are not thinking as clearly as you should and after you get past your break up you should be doing better.

Don't stay home thinking about the situation you are in, you may start to get depressed and get nothing accomplished. If you can get out of the house with your family and friends, this will speed up your healing process so you can move on. Taking your mind off your troubles is a sure fire way to recuperate.

After thinking over about why the two of you broke up and you find that you were to blame, then you need to take ownership and make apologies to your ex. When the time is right and you make your first call to them, apologize from the heart, saying you have had time to think and now understand what you have done. These would be your first steps at getting back together with your ex.

HOW TO HANDLE PROBLEMS IN YOUR SECOND MARRIAGE

World in my mind - How to handle problems in your second marriage - Second Marriage is a very good option to reset your life after a tragedy of the first relationship. Living again as a couple can prove to be beneficial as well as disastrous if not handled properly.

There are a lot of things to be considered before you finalize the decision of a second marriage. Make sure no hasty decisions are taken so that you can have a happy and smooth second marriage.

    * It is very important to analyze your first marriage. Your performance in your previous relationship will create the base for your second marriage. Considering yourself and analyzing your strong and weak points is very essential. Try and get answers to all the unasked questions before you decide to marry again.

    * Do not forget to actually think over the fact that what kind of a guy you really want to get married to. It is significant for you to lay down the characteristics you want in your spouse especially in a second marriage. Don't just settle in name or for wrong reasons like desperate need for companionship. Take the singles life to be a way to freedom and not loneliness.

    * Second marriage can prove to be an obligation after living a singles life for a period of time. Freedom that you have been enjoying for quite sometime now will be gone. There will be new responsibilities knocking at your door that has to be accepted readily.

    * Learn how to avoid differences with your partner. It is important to work hard towards making your second marriage a successful one.

Problems with your new marriage won't occur immediately. Make sure you don't become too demanding or compromising. This may later lead to major problems in the relationship.

Equality and unconditional love and respect are very essential when it comes to a new relationship.

Some positive aspects on how to handle your new marriage includes:

    * Showing a positive attitude towards your spouse, life and your relationship is very important. Happiness should not be forced and love should come straight from the heart. Encourage your partner to focus on the relationship as well and make it work equally.

    * Keep a good communication level from the start. Be open about your feelings from the very first day. This will help you in strengthening the roots of your relationship. Talk out all your issues whether it's trivial or big. Be a good listener and try and be sensitive to the needs of your partner.

    * Accepting each other's weaknesses and differences will help you go a long way and also make your relationship special with your spouse. Also try and respect each others decisions.

    * In case of an argument, try and settle things as soon as possible. Make sure it doesn't stretch for too long.

A common religious belief and similar goals can avoid a lot of arguments with your spouse. In case the new spouse has children from the first marriage then try and learn some good step-parenting skills. Make them feel special and comfortable and try and understand how important they are for your partner.

Set your priorities straight and accept them as a part of the family. Be serious and prepared before opting for a second marriage. Don't forget to put sacrifice, love and respect in your agenda. It's World in my mind.

HOW TO GET YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND BACK FROM A NEW BOYFRIEND?

Has your girlfriend dumped you for another guy? Maybe she dumped you and now she's hooked up with someone else, but you want her back. Well, there are a few ways to go about this situation, and it all starts with figuring out what went wrong. What did you do that drove her away? And most importantly, how can you fix the parts of your relationship that broke?


The first and often hardest step in this process is acceptance. You have to accept that your ex-girlfriend isn't with you anymore - and that she's with a new boyfriend. If she is happy, it may be time for you to move on. But if she's with the new boyfriend because she just wants someone to fill the hole that your breakup left, you do have a chance of getting her back. The key here is not to be aggressive; be available to her, but don't force her to try to talk to you if she needs space.

The second step is to focus on yourself for a while. Make some new friends. Expand your list of hobbies - and get involved in the ones you currently have. Forget about your relationship troubles and women in general. Don't date. Just set some goals for yourself to make positive changes in your life. Time away from your ex will give you the space you need to reassess your own situation and decide what's best for you. By then, you may not even be wondering "how to get my ex girlfriend back from a new boyfriend".

After a couple months, evaluate the situation again. Do you still want to get back together with your ex-girlfriend, or are you ready to leave that relationship behind? If you do want to get back with her, you need to figure out how she feels about you, but again, don't be aggressive. If she is still communicating with you, talk to her, be available to her. Listen to her. Figure out what she wants (which may be you) and show her that you still want her, but don't come off as desperate and needy. Those are two things that will drive anyone away. It's human nature.

CHOOSING THE PERFECT LOVE SONGS FOR YOUR WEDDING

World in my mind - Choosing the perfect love songs for your wedding - Your wedding day is one of the most important days in your life. It marks a notable transition for you as a person. It means you are finally taking that step to share your life with someone you love and eventually build a family of your own together.

With these in mind, you would definitely think about making sure that this day turns out to be one unforgettable event for you to experience and what better way of making it special than using the power of songs.

So how do you make sure your playlist fits you and your soon to be spouse? Well, here are some useful tips you can use to choose the best songs perfect for the occasion of your wedding day:

1. Consult with your spouse - Right off the top of his or her head, they might be able to suggest songs that they would like to use during your wedding day. You might also forget some incidents wherein certain songs have played a very important part in your life so it would be good to have your spouse help you with that. Do it together and you would surely find it such a memorable experience as part of preparing yourselves for the wedding day.

2. Remember the good old days - When was the first time you met each other? What's the first song you dance with, even if you are not yet a couple? Do you have any theme song? Look back at the memories that you have had with each other and surely, you will find that the highlights of it can be encapsulated through the memory brought by a song. What's the tune blasting in your car radio while you took your first long drive together for a summer vacation. This is definitely one trip worth taking

3. Consult your videographer - You might also want to involve your videographer in the process since they will be using the songs you picked for purposes of making your wedding video. They might have a few creative suggestions worth listening to. You should also take note of copyright issues especially if you are thinking of getting your songs burned into a CD which your guests can eventually bring home with them.

4. Include some good old songs that are danceable and fun - Weddings are bound to be very emotional but it does not have to mean that you'd let the whole crowd drown in the moment's many different ballads. If the songs you pick for your wedding day would also be heard by the guests, you owe it to them to at least be fun and happy about the moment. Include some fun danceable tunes to which they can relate to so you can make the occasion a really fun and memorable one for everybody present there.

5. Get a DJ for your wedding party - If you are still not sure with your list of songs, then you can always seek the help of a DJ to work out a good list of songs for your wedding party. You can hire someone who's actually pretty popular around the wedding scene. Having a DJ around is also much better because it allows you to find someone whom your guests could talk to and request some songs with during the party. It's World in my mind.

FORGET YOUR HEART AND USE YOUR HEAD!

Are you looking for a way to win back love? If you are, you need to start using your head and stop using your heart. It is just that easy.

As you are listening to your heart, it is telling you to stop everything you are doing and find your ex and make him listen to what you want to tell him know matter if he wants to hear it or not. Your heart has told you all your ex has to do is hear how much you love them and want them back and you know they will take you back as soon as they hear this. Wrong.


If you listen to your head to win back love it would never tell you to do the things talked about before. Your head should be telling you to back off, get yourself in control, and take your time. Can you figure out which one to listen to. Yes, your head.

So, at this time, just leave your ex alone, Do not call them, Do not go out and try to run into them any where you know they hang out, do not right them a love litter. Another words, do not contact them in any way at this time.

If you do contact them, you are only make yourself look desperate, you will become a pain in the back side, and no person wants to be around a desperate person. So, let your ex wonder what you are up to and where you have been.

The way to win back love is to think rational and be in control. Only then will your ex start to give you time in there live. No matter how much you love your ex, do not let your heart influence you. Control your passion and emotions to help win back love.

The help you need is the "Magic of Making Up", an excellent e-book by T. Dub Jackson. In the in The magic of making you will find some very simple ways and methods that will show you how to get your ex back. They are plain suggestions and real down to earth methods although some what unconventional to help you to get your ex back in days - not months or years. The get ex back formula is for people having an intense urge to find out ways and means to make up for their loss. They are no way black magic but works like magic to get your ex back.

HOW TO HANDLE YOUR SECOND MARRIAGE PROBLEM

Second Marriage is a very good option to reset your life after a tragedy of the first relationship. Living again as a couple can prove to be beneficial as well as disastrous if not handled properly.

There are a lot of things to be considered before you finalize the decision of a second marriage. Make sure no hasty decisions are taken so that you can have a happy and smooth second marriage.


    * It is very important to analyze your first marriage. Your performance in your previous relationship will create the base for your second marriage. Considering yourself and analyzing your strong and weak points is very essential. Try and get answers to all the unasked questions before you decide to marry again.

    * Do not forget to actually think over the fact that what kind of a guy you really want to get married to. It is significant for you to lay down the characteristics you want in your spouse especially in a second marriage. Don't just settle in name or for wrong reasons like desperate need for companionship. Take the singles life to be a way to freedom and not loneliness.

    * Second marriage can prove to be an obligation after living a singles life for a period of time. Freedom that you have been enjoying for quite sometime now will be gone. There will be new responsibilities knocking at your door that has to be accepted readily.

    * Learn how to avoid differences with your partner. It is important to work hard towards making your second marriage a successful one.

Problems with your new marriage won't occur immediately. Make sure you don't become too demanding or compromising. This may later lead to major problems in the relationship.

Equality and unconditional love and respect are very essential when it comes to a new relationship.

Some positive aspects on how to handle your new marriage includes:

    * Showing a positive attitude towards your spouse, life and your relationship is very important. Happiness should not be forced and love should come straight from the heart. Encourage your partner to focus on the relationship as well and make it work equally.

    * Keep a good communication level from the start. Be open about your feelings from the very first day. This will help you in strengthening the roots of your relationship. Talk out all your issues whether it's trivial or big. Be a good listener and try and be sensitive to the needs of your partner.

    * Accepting each other's weaknesses and differences will help you go a long way and also make your relationship special with your spouse. Also try and respect each others decisions.

    * In case of an argument, try and settle things as soon as possible. Make sure it doesn't stretch for too long.

A common religious belief and similar goals can avoid a lot of arguments with your spouse. In case the new spouse has children from the first marriage then try and learn some good step-parenting skills. Make them feel special and comfortable and try and understand how important they are for your partner.

Set your priorities straight and accept them as a part of the family. Be serious and prepared before opting for a second marriage. Don't forget to put sacrifice, love and respect in your agenda.

5 SIMPLE TIPS TO GET YOUR EX BOYFRIEND BACK

It is not easy for you and your ex boyfriend to get back after a breakup. However, there are a few tips that you can follow to get him back again. So many people don't succeed in winning their ex back. It's not really our fault. No one ever handed us an instruction book when we first started dating that taught us how to handle a breakup. Much less, how to get someone back after a breakup. If you want your ex boyfriend back, these 5 simple steps should help achieve your goal:

1.The first tip which will help you and your ex boyfriend to get back together is get your head straight. You need to get rid of the negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.


Don't let your emotion and especially depression keep you down. You can't achieve a goal, if you can't keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Negative thoughts are destructive behavior.

2.Accept that the relationship in its prior form is over. All the wishing in the world isn't going to allow you to go back in time and change the way things happened. You can't let your mind keep wandering into the past.

Focus on what is going on now. If you realize that the relationship of the past wasn't perfect, you're heading in the right direction. You're laying the foundation for you and your ex boyfriend to get back. Remember you are most likely glossing over all the bad stuff that happened. Think about this; the relationship wasn't broken in a day. Don't expect to be able to fix it in a day either.

3.Don't pester your ex boyfriend. Guys just don't like it when girls become obsessive about them. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to seek comfort by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don't continuously call him, text message him, email him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. Give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting him back.


4.Become an object of desire. If you can, get some new makeup. Buy some new clothes. Try a new hairstyle. If you've picked up a few pounds, start exercising and eating healthy. When you look good on the outside, you're going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. By feeling good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you're confident and happy, you will project this image to others. You will become an object of desire to men. This includes your ex boyfriend.

5.Take it slow. If you followed steps 1-4 your ex boyfriend at some point will probably get in touch with you. Imagine his surprise when he sees the 'new' you from step 4. He will probably be sorry that he broke up with you. Keep your physical contact with him to a minimum if you do see him.

Seeing you looking your best and seeing that you've become confident and happy will make him desire you. If you limit your physical contact with him, it will drive him crazy. It will probably help to ensure that you don't just jump back into a relationship only to breakup a short time later.

These tips may not be easy for you to do at first. You may want to give in and call him or see him, but you have to resist the temptation.

HOW TO HANDLE SHY IN THE FIRST MEETING

Do you love the tone of the profile that is displayed in front of you? You can ask if this feeling is mutual and if it actually is, make some effort to arrange for a get together. Free on line dating is an essential useful resource for shy woman or man who is making efforts to seek a life spouse.
The online site offers you basic ideas and presents points on being familiar with whether you are allowing your dating online contact to feel comfortable. Keep in mind, the first phase to a great experience is the level of comfort with one another. At the end of the meeting, if you have a marvelous feeling over it; the free online dating internet site has likely gone smooth.


Things You Require To Do In The First Meeting

Precisely what should you wear, where should you go and precisely what should you say, these are commonly the queries progressing through your thoughts the second you make your mind up to meet up the individual you know through the on line chat website. Hope the free on line dating internet site become your guide in helping you creating a great impression. You must decide upon destination and outfit which enables both of you to meet up discreetly. It would not matter whether you are on a limited budget outing, you shouldn't adjust facts to fit with the situation. A simple dinner, a stroll on the seaside or an ice cream near a local park can do just great. The main consideration is the two of you should be comfortable and receptive to know more about one another well. If you feel at ease, think through subjects to begin the talk and slowly allow yourself to relax as the conversation flows the natural way. There may perhaps be some moments of quietness, be comfortable with it. Free online dating website offers you points and discussion boards which will assist you deal with the meeting with ease.

Right After The Very First Meeting

You have already seen one another and are on one another's thoughts, compose an email. Speak about the way you felt following the meet up and exactly how you prefer to take the romance ahead. At this time, you must make clear your thoughts about each other's suitability. Enable a pace to be set by two of you. You should never assume that you are madly in love or in a continual relationship at this point. Be prepared for the probability that the other individual is not ready to move the relationship to the next level. Do not ever treat this as being rejected. Rather, go back to the internet site and search for other individuals, there are so many choices that you can consider.

FIND REASON BEFORE CHOOSING DIVORCE

World in my mind - People who are compatible to each other lead a happy married life while those who are not compatible often face various difficulties. These days divorce cases are increasing with a very rapid speed due to various different reasons. Some reasons are loyalty factor, education factor, infidelity, facing responsibilities and understanding.

If you are also facing problems in your married life then you must try to find out the reasons due to which differences have been created between you and your spouse.

In this article, I would mainly like to tell you about some essential facts that you must know about the increase divorce cases.

1. Gray divorce
Gray divorce is mainly a termed used for those people who have gray hair and they are getting divorce. People who are 55 and above, often use Via gra to enhance their sexual power that is why the gray divorce is also known as Via gra divorce. Older men are now restarting their sexual performance with the help of this chemical. Via gra is known to be a crucial cause for the people getting divorce at this age because this new found sexual drive can really destroy their marriage to some extend.

2. Increase in divorce
These days you will see that divorce cases are increasing day by day due to change in trends and ego clashes. People are also getting divorced because they can not provide financial stability to each other. With recession and other economical drawbacks, divorce instances have become a daily routine. In America alone, the divorce percentage is increasing with a rapid pace. It is seen that low income bracket people and black couples are more likely to get divorced as compared to wealthy people and white couples

3. Education qualifications and age
Divorce instances also depend on the age and education qualifications of a person. Statistics have proved that the age and the education qualification of a person are two important factors on which the divorce depends. People who are educated are less likely to get divorced as compared to people who are uneducated and illiterate.

4. Marriages are not lasting these days because people are living longer
Some people tend to believe that these days' marriages are not working because people are living longer. This rumor regarding the divorce rate is absolutely untrue.

Well these are some important facts that you must keep in mind about the increase in the present divorce rate. It's World in my mind.

HOW TO SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE

World in my mind - Everyone agrees that it takes a lot of work and dedication to have a healthy and lifelong marriage.  The fairy tale of meeting that special someone and the honeymoon stage do not last forever.  Marriage is beyond the courtship and honeymoon.  Start early in the relationship to plan for saving your marriage.

During courtship you spend time together that was about each other not about doing the dishes, washing the clothes, cooking the meals, mowing the lawn, and all the day to day activities that have to be done.    The best way to keep you love fresh and to have a healthy marriage is to plan for it.

Planning for Saving Your Marriage :

    * Set realistic expectations
    * Set goals for the marriage
    * Keep a positive attitude
    * Express tender loving care
    * Effective communication skills

Let each other know your expectations of each other.   You must establish realistic expectations that practical.  You can agree not to yell or call each other names during a disagreement but do not set the expectation to not have a disagreement.  That is not being realistic.  You are setting your marriage up for failure if you do this.  Both partners need to agree upon the expectations for the marriage.

Setting a goal of having a healthy lifetime marriage is like setting a mile marker in front of you that is always moving just far enough ahead to allow you to keep the goal in site but always another step to go.

Don't accept a negative attitude at any time from either partner.  Always look at your marriage in a positive light.   Acknowledge the positive attitudes and personality of your spouse.  Don't dwell on the negative behaviors.  You build up the positive and that is what you will see more of.  If you focus on the negative behavior you will get more of the negative behavior.  What a surprise!  You though the one to change the negative behavior was the spouse with the negative behavior.  It really doesn't work that way.   You get what you see and give attention to.

You should show extra tender loving care toward your spouse.  What is tender loving care?  It is simply the do in love.   Politicians are thought to be good politicians when they put action behind their campaign promises.  In a healthy marriage you will find two partners who put action behind their words of love.   Tender loving care provides needed nurturing to the relationship.

Using effective communication is more than just talking, it actually requires more listening than talking.   Customer service training teaches you to ask open ended questions rather than closed ended questions. Open ended questions start with how, when, and where.  When asked these questions require the other person to carry out a dialog and you listen.   Closed ended questions such as Did, Could, Would can be answered with a mere yes or no and often get answered with just a nod of the head.   Do you want to open your partner up for communication then ask open ended questions? It's World in my mind.